Is Earning More in Less Time A Hype?

Woman holding money and clockIs the chatter about biz moms earning more in less time for real?  Or is the promise just all about coaches puffing themselves and their offerings up?

The good news is that it’s true, and here’s why:

Necessity

Mom business owners with profitable businesses place a high priority on family time than your regular entrepreneur, leaving less time for business. To make their enterprises more than expensive hobbies, they MUST make the time they have to work count.

Ownership

Compared to moms working outside the home, the buck completely stops with the mom business owner. She must be results-oriented and skilled in developing effective processes.

Development

Successful mompreneurs are CEOs with an eye on the big picture. If there are gaps in her knowledge base, she seeks education or someone else to help her complete the task.

Agility

Mom businesses can adapt quickly to industry trends and make smart adjustments in strategies and tactics. Larger organizations are often too cumbersome to adapt and are vulnerable to misuse and waste talent and flexible strategies and systems.

Peak Productivity

The mom biz lifestyle provides the right framework for maximum productivity. The 8-hour work shift was designed for manual labor, not mental labor. Performance declines after a couple of hours. While interruptions and breaks for the mompreneur can be irritating, working intensely in short bursts actually produces better work output.

The Art of Good Enough

Mom business owners lack the luxury of time to get work projects just right. The work expands to the amount to time allotted for it. Sharp mompreneurs know when good enough is good enough.

What I do all day is help mom business owners leverage these advantages so that they create the life of their dreams with a profitable business, family and “me” time that is 100% in sync with their Catholic faith. I would love to help you, too. If you want to see how to ramp up the benefits of being a mom business owner schedule a complimentary “Getting It Done” session here: http://catholicwomensguide.com/getitdone/

Catholic Mompreneur Biz and Life Tip:  Recognize as a mompreneur you are in an elite group of highly skilled business professionals. Take your strongest mompreneur skill listed above and take steps to amplify its impact on your success.

Self-limiting Beliefs

We’re newbie middle school parents with our oldest entering 6th grade this fall.  Yet after five weeks I am experiencing an identity problem.  Which Weber family member entered middle school?   I’m feeling like a beaten up middle schooler myself.

It all started well enough, but things went downhill with the grades the last few weeks.  We received a notice of Ian’s first “D”, and his 3-day suspension from participating in cross country.

Some of the teachers have been trying to help by notifying us of upcoming tests and giving Ian second chances on turning assignments in.  When we reviewed Power School together I questioned Ian how he did not improve his score after his teacher allowed him to do his assignment again.  Ian couldn’t explain it other than he felt rushed and it was hard.

It’s not that Ian doesn’t want to do well and doesn’t care.  But watching him I can see the effects of his self-limiting beliefs.  He is very bright and creative.  The teachers tell us he’s an A / B student.  But once he senses the task is too hard and he might fail, he starts slowing down his effort and sabotaging his success.  I see his self-limiting beliefs leading to a self-fulfilling prophesy.

So what’s a beat-up middle school mom to do to help her son avoid falling off the academic cliff?  Tune in next time.

Catholic Women’s Guide to Healthy Relationships Tip:  Learn how to detach enough to observe our loved ones so we can be as helpful as possible.

Good Versus Bad Vulnerability

Our recent encounter with vandalism where we had eight of our tires slashed led me to an article I recently posted on my Facebook fan page titled, “Three Ways to Protect Against Vandalism”.   The first step of  “identifying weaknesses” resonated not only with the feelings of susceptibility from being vandalized, but also with a nagging feeling of vulnerability I was having  with our new middle schooler and all of his electronic equipments–the Nook, the ipod, the computer, and Dad’s tablet. For several months I’ve been feeling  ill-at-ease with the influence of the Internet and the culture on our kids.

Vulnerability is a good thing when it’s a part of loving, intimate relationships.  But it’s bad in the context of letting unbridled evil into your home and family life.

That discomfort attracted me to read an article in the National Catholic Register about Covenant Eyes, a software company helping  parents monitor their kids’ use of the Internet.  It was no coincidence that I was able to connect with Ryan Foley at the Covenant Eyes booth during  the Mid-west Catholic Family Conference.  He explained that Covenant Eyes was developed by a busy widowed executive dad who wanted some way to monitor his kids’ activities.

Now the company has grown to help other families by rating web sites based on content and providing a daily report to the accountability partner.  Evidence of visiting inappropriate sites can fuel healthy discussions on good boundaries between parents and kids–and even spouses.  All personal devices with Internet access can be registered.

I sighed with relief as I was listening to Mr. Foley. I have always had the approach that I want to teach our kids how to interact with the culture in healthy ways rather than become “Cavemen Catholics”.  Giving them supervised practice using the Internet and engaging the culture while they were still under our roof and under our control was our way to prepare them when they left the home and theoretically were free to do whatever they want.  However, I was feeling a bit too loosey goosey with the proliferation of these gadgets.  Our son was still fairly innocent and not too interested in being cool, etc., but the days where his curiosity and interest would increase were not too far away.  Falling into the trap of pornography, one of the vices of the Internet,  is not the nemesis of seedy men; good Catholic men and young boys get taken down regularly with its lure, and with them, the family and society.

And it all could be prevented before it even starts with an honest identification of weaknesses and a good plan to eliminate them.

Catholic Women’s Guide to Healthy Relationships Tip:  Ask yourself how protected your family is from negative influences of the culture and media; if, necessary, take steps to shore up the vulnerabilities.

It’s All In Your Mind

I was a little concerned every time I watch my 6th grader and his friends at cross country conditioning training. They were walking, not running! At the very first meeting the coach emphasized the psychological importance of being able to run around the training loop without stopping, even if you slow down to just a shuffle.

So when I had an opportunity to run with Ian for several days, I took it.

Initially, our run disturbed me even more. Two minutes into a twenty-minute run, Ian’s run halted to a walk. No words of encouragement, case of logic for learning to run without stopping or even begging for him to run for the love of his mother persuaded him to pick up the pace.

In a desperate move, I appealed to his base instincts: I offered cash. At a half-way point we had eleven minutes more to go back home. I told Ian I would pay him one dollar per minute if he ran straight home.

A different boy emerged. Not only did Ian run without stopping, but ran at a fairly swift pace.

Stumped by the psychology, I was unclear what was in the boy’s mind. Was he just a pragmatic minimalist? Was his hesitancy part of a lack of confidence that he could run the entire time, so why try? Or was he completely lazy?

When we were stretching, I did share this pearl of wisdom: running is all in your mind. When Ian put his mind to running all the way home, he was able to get his body to comply.

As is the spiritual life…with clear goals and focused effort, we, too, can win the prize.

The Catholic Women’s Guide To Healthy Relationships Tip: Where do you need to be pushed and have focus in your spiritual life?

The Chain of Optimism (Part 3)

The actual moment was worse than my psyche would allow me to comprehend while sitting in my pastor’s office. There for the meeting with him and the principal about having the Kids for Jesus (K4J) School of Virtue at our school, I had my youngest two kids with me after picking them up from half day school.

I take my kids everywhere and normally they are well-behaved. But that day they were literally flying across the tiny room as I was making my pitch for the virtue program. (It has really helped me and my kids so much…really.) I was kicking myself for not having brought them a snack or crayons and a coloring book. They were loud, disobedient, and disrespectful. It did not help that my pastor was a high-brow intellectual who was uncomfortable with children.

Yes, I was quite the ambassador for K4J that day! So to hear the we’ll-study-that-more-over-the-next-several-years-and-get-back-with-you did not come as a complete surprise.

Fast-forward to a room filled with two-thirds of the 28 parent volunteers learning their role as K4J room parents adn host families in implementing the K4J School of Virtue. Although a bit overwhelmed with absorbing the program, you could tell they were intrigued. As I looked at the audience, I felt in awe that I was in a modern-day loaves and fishes miracle. God took our tight core of five families and just multiplied us by six.

So how did we get from point “A” to point “B”? Well the first pastor didn’t have time to finish his study before he was transferred to another parish. Building on the chain of optimism rather than get discouraged by perceived rejection, I set a meeting with the new pastor to introduce myself and my apostolate, K4J. After explaining how K4J helps form young souls and get kids excited about their faith, I asked him how this fits with his vision for the parish.

And he said, “It fits exactly”.

And the rest is history.

Catholic Women’s Guide to Healthy Relationships Tip: Be yourself and never let discouragement or negativity stop you from letting God use you as His instrument.