The Power of Met Needs

My daughter recently had a play date with two sisters who are in her class. Kate is Gianna’s age. Andrea, a year older, has autism. Andrea attends both the Catholic and public schools part-time.

Kate and Andrea are both sweet girls. Watching the interactions I was struck by the maturity and kindness of Kate in how she treats her sister. Andrea at times can be challenging, particularly if she does not take her medicine. Gianna has described her on occasion losing control at school, for example, by throwing sand at her classmates at recess. When we had a sleepover with all the girls in the class, Andrea got overstimulated and couldn’t wind down, irritating the other girls who wanted to sleep.

Being a sibling of a special needs kid growing up, I know it can be challenging. Time, attention, and energy go to the one needing more with the family organizing around him or her. Kate demonstrates the right balance of connection and inclusion as well as detachment and letting those in charge be responsible. She is extremely patient and loving.

That’s the power of getting your needs met.

Kate and Andrea’s family is outstanding. They are attentive and responsive to their kids’ needs. They nurture their marriage. They are committed to their faith and model stewardship. They have great extended family support.

When our needs are met, we can be present for others in the way God wants us to be. As children we rely on adults to meet many of our needs. But as adults we are responsible for finding ways to meet them.

Catholic Women’s Guide to Healthy Relationship Tip: Identify an unmet need that is getting in the way of loving another and pray how to get it met.